Have you noticed how often we as humans engage in conversation from a need to be right or make the other person wrong? How we don’t really listen to what the other person is saying, but instead listen to respond? We all too often engage in conversation to WIN the conversation!
But who decided we needed to WIN the conversation anyway? I mean what happens if we approach conversations from a place of curiosity; from understanding; from ‘hmm, I wonder what cool idea you have that I might learn from?’
If we approached every conversation from ‘how can I better understand where you are coming from and what you have to say?’… the dialogues and the conversations that result would be magnificent!
It wouldn’t be about winning. It wouldn’t be about judgment. It wouldn’t be about ‘I’m better than you’ or ‘I’m smarter than you.’ It would be from a place of exploration… and in exploration so much more is possible.
So what if you tried that approach today? What if the next conversation you had with somebody – especially if they have a different idea than yours, or it sounds like they’re coming from a totally different place than you – what if you came from a place of inquiry; of understanding; of curiosity?
Asking questions, not to prove somebody wrong or make yourself right, but to understand what it is that they believe; what they think; how they feel.
What can you do differently in your life out of that conversation, that could grow your connection with the person and grow your expansiveness in the world?
So go out there today and give it a shot! Dive into those conversations, especially those awkward or uncomfortable conversations, from that point of ‘what can I learn and how can I support or help?